Be the Best HBIC You Can Be


We live in a man’s world, that much is true. The modern woman may be successful, intelligent, and poised…and still only make 80¢ to a man’s dollar. If that’s not a slap in the face, then the constant barrage of insults she encounters on a daily basis has to be the icing on the cake.

“Slut,” is what she hears when she won’t smile at the construction worker who catcalls her on the street, and,”Bitch,” is often muttered through the teeth of other women the patriarchy has taught to hate their own kind. She lives in a world where she is constantly told,”No, no, no,” and,”Women are expected to be x-y-and-z.”

Tack on any ambitions she may have the desire to chase and she’s labeled as “thirsty” or “fake” for trying to achieve them. God forbid she speak up for what she wants, demanding it without hesitation. An open palm ready for reward is translated by society as open legs, because there’s no way she could have climbed her way up from the bottom on just her brain alone.

Even more unfortunate, the moment she takes the time to criticize those who criticize her, she is simply labeled as an “Angry-lesbian-feminazi-bitch.” This is the world we live in.

But a real boss ass bitch knows her worth, and she knows how to get it.

What is the it?

Anything she wants it to be.

Below are the mottos HBIC’s live by… and yes, even Blair Waldorf would approve.


  • A real lady knows that looks are more than her hair, her face, or her body.

Her laugh is genuine and her selflessness is contagious. She knows the heart is what makes you pretty, and the body is simply a manifestation of the soul. People don’t think she’s alluring because of her face, they are attracted to everything that lies beneath. She looks every person she meets in the eyes, and probably knows how to SMIZE better than Tyra.

  • A real lady keeps her shoulders squared and her chin up.

She walks with confidence and purpose. Every step is calculated, and even when she doubts herself, she doesn’t show it. She has eyes of steel and a heart of gold. She doesn’t let anyone shake her. She may not always know where she’s going or what she’s doing, but she keeps her chin up and her shoulders sqphoto-1448932155749-638e51b56f03uared.

  • A real lady doesn’t look at other women as competition, she views them as equals worthy of respect.

Simply put, she knows that fake is overrated and only high school girls are aspiring to be Regina George. A real lady aspires to be better.

  • A real lady always keeps her tongue sharp and her ambitions sharper.

She can go tit for tat and not break a sweat. After a lifetime of practice, it comes as easy as 1, 2, 3… same as setting her goals and following her dreams.

  • A real lady lives consciously… and everyone can see it.

She realizes that everything she puts out to the world will be judged, criticized, admired, or received. She takes this into account when she speaks, breathes, and eats. She lives a life of consciousness rather than idleness, and knows her worth. This self health manifests in her appearance, her body, and her soul.

  • A real lady isn’t materialistic but she values her materials. 

She admires beautiful things rather than flaunts them. Even her own wealth and material possessions are valuable because she worked hard for them. She doesn’t take a single thing for granted and treats every one of her possessions with care and consideration.


  • A lady boss uses criticism and negativity to motivate her.

A boss knows that criticism is supposed to be constructive, and negative remarks/idle gossip is the work of petty jealousy and unfounded hatred. She lets it roll off her shoulders and uses it to motivate her.

  • A lady boss will not hesitate to specify what she wants.

She will always speak her mind, loudly, clearly, and without any ambiguity.

  • A lady boss always makes (and keeps) to-do lists.

A head bitch in charge is always organized. She knocks through her to-do list like she goes through her potential suitors: with ease and efficiency.


  • A lady boss doesn’t overspend. She budgets everything— including emergencies.

Shopping, clothes, makeup, food, rent expenses, and more are always budgeted into her lifestyle. A lady boss doesn’t allow herself the possibility of coming up short– financially or otherwise. Even emergencies are budgeted, and she always takes care of her top priorities before she allows herself any indulgences.

  • A lady boss sets her goals twice as high as her counterparts.

It doesn’t matter who she is surrounded by or who she is competing with. Her goals always exceed what is asked of her… that way, even if she falls short, she will walk away with something to boast instead of something lost.

  • A lady boss keeps three things in her purse: a tampon, a pack of gum, and her business card.

Preparation is everything when it comes to maintaining a balanced and organized life. Surprises don’t shake a HBIC, they simply act as a minor obstacle to overcome. A boss is always prepared and willing to do what is necessary, all while snapping a piece of gum as though it were a cakewalk.

  • A lady boss doesn’t expect anyone else but herself to act as the provider. 

A woman who can provide for herself is a woman who knows how to handle her shit. Point blank. She expects those around her to be able to do the same.

  • A lady boss will give second chances, but won’t be dumb enough to extend a third.

A lady boss will not hesitate to cut off negative people at their root. She knows that negativity only breeds negativity. Leeches will never learn to provide for themselves, and the dishonest are probably not worth having around anyway.

  • A lady boss doesn’t deny her sexuality, but she doesn’t let it control her either. 

She acknowledges that, while her sexuality can aid in achieving her ultimate goals, most of the time it isn’t necessary. She strikes a careful balance of the two, teetering on a fine line between sensual rather than overtly sexual.


Bosses aren’t born overnight. Women are badass because they know, even after being pushed around, told no, that they can be more than what they are currently. They can aspire to be more, achieve more, and grow. Anyone can be a boss bitch too, if they really want to.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither were you.




    • October 8, 2016 / 2:58 am

      I definitely think that society impresses on us the wrong values, so I thought it was important to finally make a post detailing all the right ones! Goals and ambition are sexy, and every woman should feel proud of wanting to achieve them! 🙂

    • October 8, 2016 / 2:59 am

      It’s important! Criticism helps us grow as people, always remember that 🙂

  1. October 8, 2016 / 4:04 pm

    This post brought a smile to my face! Great job on this 🙂

    • October 8, 2016 / 8:40 pm

      That was the goal! Thanks a bunch for stopping by ☺️

  2. October 9, 2016 / 10:07 pm

    There needs to be more posts like this, I completely agree with everything you said! So glad I came across your blog today, you seem so lovely and are really talented at what you do.. keep up the good work pretty lady! x

    • October 10, 2016 / 1:10 pm

      Thanks a bunch! I agree, there definitely need to be more female on female empowerment! Glad you could relate! c:

  3. October 10, 2016 / 10:22 am

    I would like to congratulate you on this post! Woah, okay that sounds a little formal, but really, this is amazing. Sometimes I get really down and only think of what a small fish I am in this vast sea in life, but this is the kind of post that reminds you that you have worth. Incredibly well written, you should get this published somewhere! Seriously.

    • October 10, 2016 / 1:11 pm

      Thank you for stopping by! That was sort of the goal. Our lives are whatever we make of them, and I’d rather be one of those people who controls it rather than sits idly by waiting for it to happen.There is something to be said for self motivation and I believe everyone can live the lives they want to lead by making it happen! <3

  4. October 14, 2016 / 8:31 am

    I love the empowering echo in this post. Especially the “let’s empower other women instead of trying to drag them down” part. Because that’s one of the most important things we need to remember. We’re conditioned into thinking we need to comete with each other when we should be building each other. You rock, girl!
    Katja xxx

    • October 14, 2016 / 8:48 pm

      I think the patriarchy tells us what we should think of each other instead of coming to that conclusion on our own. May we appreciate the beauty and the talent surrounded by us! 🙂

  5. October 14, 2016 / 12:15 pm

    Fantastic blog post.Woman are indeed amazing powerhouses ! May we be them and may we raise them

  6. October 14, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Woww……what an amazing post and really well written. I love to read this arcticle and also I love the way you written.
    It´s strong words but all are true. You´re great dear.

    XOX, Kintan

    • October 14, 2016 / 8:47 pm

      Thank you a bunch! Glad you enjoyed reading it. It’s time we appreciate all that we are capable of instead of wallowing about things we can’t change!

    • October 14, 2016 / 8:46 pm

      Glad you liked them! Always important to keep in mind as we go about our day to day 🙂

  7. Laveena Sengar
    October 14, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    It’s always great to hear something about women embracing their potential. Something special about it. Thanks for sharing.

  8. October 14, 2016 / 4:27 pm

    WHOA!! Awesome post!! This must be read by every lady out there.. Well written Heather.

    • October 14, 2016 / 8:45 pm

      Thank you! That’s what I’m striving for… to inspire and to motivate other women! 🙂

  9. October 15, 2016 / 5:40 am

    interesting post, i’m all for woman empowerment, nice to see a blog post about it 🙂

  10. October 22, 2016 / 4:23 am

    I just bookmarked this post and plan to reference back to it so many more times. Constantly reminding ourselves that we are a HBIC is so important and I loved all the things you mentioned. This was a well thought out and helpful post for me 🙂

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn’s Korner

    • October 22, 2016 / 6:56 am

      Honestly I’m so glad to hear it. That’s sort of why I wrote the post actually– ever woman has the potential to be exactly the person she wants to be and I think society tries to make us forget that at times. Really glad this was able to inspire you! Go grab life by the reins babe, I believe in you! 🙂

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