Confession: I Don’t Love Christmas

My first blogmas post and I write about this? I know what you’re thinking… what kind of terrible monster am I? How could I not just L-O-V-E Christmas? It’s the best time of year, after all! Yay commercialism, presents, and the spirit of “giving”.

I should be happy, busting out into spontaneous Christmas jingles, and donning a Santa Hat 24/7 shouldn’t I? Isn’t that what Christmas is all about?

No.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a total scrooge, and while I don’t hate Christmas, I don’t particularly like it either. If anything, despite my love for all things snow and winter, the one thing I’m not as jazzed about every year has to be Christmas. Even as a child, I don’t remember loving it for any reason other than receiving presents, and that same materialism is a phase I eventually grew out of.

Besides, I realize in retrospect my childish attitude defeated the whole point of the holiday. One would hope people would embrace giving instead of receiving– apparently I got the memo sixteen years late.

I think the one thing I dislike the most about Christmas has to be the way we inherently squander other people’s problems… all in the name of holiday cheer. In a way, it is almost expected that a person be happy, simply due to the fact that “Santa is coming!”. But just because we’re getting closer to a holiday that some people may or may not celebrate, doesn’t mean that all worries vanish and the Christmas cheer miraculously eliminates all issues in our lives. If anything, the coldness and loneliness of wintertime is bound to amplify any feelings of discontentment or isolation, and ignoring the struggle that comes with the holiday season sometimes only makes it worse.

I know for a lot of people that Christmas can be especially anxiety inducing, whether it be for social, financial, or other reasons. Forcing people to be happy and telling them to just decorate a gingerbread house does nothing to address any underlying problems that may accompany the holiday season, and the “Christmas Cheer” is apt to leave a person feeling even more alone than supported altogether.

And then you have some people like me… who don’t hate Christmas and who don’t love it, but loathe being told to love it all the same. I have never, in all my life, been the kind of person who gets overzealously excited about anything, much less Christmas. I don’t scream, I don’t shout, I don’t sing holiday jingles all the time to myself, or rave on and on about how much I love cinnamon / pumpkin spice / apples / and peppermint.

That’s just not who I am…

But being surrounded by that daily can feel a bit claustrophobic and overwhelming. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to have certain anxieties centered around the holiday season.

So in the spirit of kindness, giving, and selflessness, I’d like to remind you all to be aware, kind, and understanding of those who may not share the same love for Christmas/Blogmas/the holiday season as you do. There is often a lot happening behind the scenes that you don’t see… so the next time you hear someone go quiet when Christmas is mentioned or Jingle Bells comes on the radio– don’t force them to sing along or shove holiday cheer down their throat.

The thing I’d like you most to remember about the holiday season? It’s not about the wreaths, ornaments, presents, or commercially imposed sense of Holiday cheer… it’s about appreciating everything and everyone around you for what they are worth.

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How do you guys feel about Christmas? Have you participated in Blogmas already? Let me know in the comments below!

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10 Comments

  1. December 18, 2016 / 5:36 am

    I agree. For different reasons, however. I don’t celebrate Christmas. I used to because my family did but now that I’m on my own I feel like there are so many other things in Winter to appreciate. Maybe it’s because I’m Jewish, or maybe my December Birthday, but, Winter has always been my favorite season with or without Christmas.

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    • December 18, 2016 / 6:00 am

      I can definitely understand your reason for not celebrating Christmas. Another thing I find difficult is how over-hyped Blogmas is and how impressed upon it is that bloggers partake. I love the wintertime and hot chocolate and cuddling up to friends, but to focus on one thing specifically (holiday cheer) and drive it home to death– it does seem like a bit much to me as well. Thanks for stopping by! Really interesting hearing someone with a similar outlook on it as me!

    • December 18, 2016 / 8:45 pm

      I really do think Christmas should be a time where we are reminded to remain conscious of other’s struggles and it’s so important to remember this.

  2. analesha
    December 18, 2016 / 8:54 pm

    Great post. It’s really honest.
    I have felt the financial pressure this year as a mum of two and have asked my mother to actually stop buying things. She has so many little gifts and I asked her to stop because I didn’t want them to be spoilt and her response was that it meant they were well loved. This made me so mad as I don’t want my kids to think that they are loved just because someone buys them something.
    Great post x

    • December 18, 2016 / 9:03 pm

      I totally agree! I mean, it took me years to realize that love is felt from the heart and not the wallet. Also I’ve noticed each and every year just gets more outrageous in terms of trying to overbuy your neighbor and compete with what’s hip, and trending, and in, and that’s not what Christmas is really about at all.

      Thank you for the kind words! Happy holidays to you!

  3. December 19, 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Great post! The holidays are for all of us to come together, appreciate one another and be grateful for what we have ❤

    • December 20, 2016 / 1:14 am

      Exactly! Some people tend to lose sight of this.

  4. December 19, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    I relate to this SO MUCH now that I’ve moved out! There is so much more importance on family time and love than “what I got” over the holidays. Love your honesty!

    • December 20, 2016 / 1:24 am

      The holidays are a time to be caring to others and I think people truly forget this sometimes! Glad you enjoyed this post! 🙂

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