To My Ex’s Future Girlfriend,
I respect you.
I know that sounds funny to hear. I don’t know you yet and neither does he. If you were wondering, we’re hot on the heels of a breakup– it’s never pretty, is it? But, above all else, I trust that my ex’s decision was sound before he went and let his heart get involved. He doesn’t just give his heart away like a handout, you know. You’re lucky to see a side of him that goes unnoticed and unknown. I promise you will spend a better half of your time getting lost in the thick of the woods before you come out on the other side, but I also promise his moon is the brightest shine you’ll ever see.
It’s the fourth day of November and you know what that means… time for goal setting and pie consuming. November is one of my favorite months, and it has e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g to do with the fact that Thanksgiving is right around the corner.
In honor of the month of giving thanks, here is a list of a few things I’m thankful for right now!
- My sassy professors and my TA’s Twitter account (and also teasing my TA about the tweets he writes about his students)
- My grandmother’s cute little laugh
- My amazing, friendly, funny, inspiring, friends. I know it’s cheesy to say, but the people in my life right now are all some of the best people I’ve ever met– 10/10 would recommend.
- The fact that I’m lucky enough to pursue an area of study I enjoy, and also have time to pursue my other hobbies such as blogging, photography, writing, and graphic design. School doesn’t dominate my entire life and even though there will come a time where it will have to, right now I’m just focused on riding the wave.
- The smell of rain
- My size 6 feet and the fact that shoes are never sold out in my size
- !!!!MY MOM!!!!!
Okay, now after that little celebratory aside, let’s talk goals. More importantly, the goals I set for myself last month.
Granted I’ve been meaning to make this post since, well, two weeks ago, I figured it’s better late than never, right? I’ve never made a goals post before, but I’m a huge fan of proactive living and after seeing a bunch of others… I felt inspired to finally make one myself.
Click the read more to see what my October goals are (it’s never too late to make them). Maybe they’ll inspire you to do the same!
Today was one of those days where it felt like I had lost control of my own life. It was as though time were passing me by and I had zero control of where my life was headed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m at such an exciting and pivotal point in my life right now; but at the same time, a part of me is always reaching for what used to be. I am in love with, of all things, the past.
Today I came to the realization that I just need to take a deep breath, gather myself, and learn to slow down. I’m always searching for the next best thing, awaiting this or that, hoping that the time will pass faster so that I can achieve x-y-z. I acknowledge that I need to stop sometimes and appreciate what I already have… but when there’s so much changing and growing and evolving within such a short amount of time, I find it difficult to keep track of the weeks as they pass. I realized I need to learn to savor each moment as it transitions to the next.
It sort of goes without saying, but as of late, my life has been absolutely crazy. Not crazy in a bad way, but crazy in a good way. Here you can see ‘What’s Next’ in Heather’s grand plan as well as some positive little updates that have taken place along the way.
It’s easy to look at an Instagram feed or a blogger’s website and think you know everything about their life from a single glance. It’s easy to look at a beautifully staged and edited photo and mistake it for reality. We do it all the time. Whether it be a celebrity’s Instagram photos (*cough* Kylie Jenner *cough*) or photos of a friend’s exotic vacation… it’s easy to covet what we don’t have.
Of course I’ll admit that I’m as guilty as anyone of being struck by online envy. I’ve used Tumblr for as long as I can remember, and even though I know how much effort some bloggers go to in order to make their photos “Gram-worthy”, I still can’t help comparing myself and my own Instagram to theirs.
Why don’t my photos ever turn out that beautifully? Why can’t I afford those clothes too? Wow, they totally can rock that itsy-bitsy bathing suit. Why don’t I have a body like that?
It’s easy to feel insecure about yourself, your looks, and your own life when you’re scrolling through what appears to be someone else’s picture perfect reality. But, as I’ve come to learn throughout the years, when it comes to social media… we see the reality someone else wants us to see.